There are no college courses to build up self-esteem or high school or elementary school. If you don't get those values at a early age nurtured in your home you don't get them.

High expectations weren't nurtured in my neck of nowhere back then - children weren't fawned over from an early age as 'gifted' and groomed for a prizewinning future self-esteem was considered something you had to pick from the garden yourself.