But one of the hardest things for me to do was to access anger. I could do it on stage. But when I did it on film it was hard for me. That probably has to do with the intimacy of film. And my own personal issues with expressing anger. So I had to learn how to do that.

With fame there is a crosswire between intensity and intimacy. You have decoy intimacy but you are also very much alone.

Communication is a continual balancing act juggling the conflicting needs for intimacy and independence. To survive in the world we have to act in concert with others but to survive as ourselves rather than simply as cogs in a wheel we have to act alone.

If you age with somebody you go through so many roles - you're lovers friends enemies colleagues strangers you're brother and sister. That's what intimacy is if you're with your soulmate.